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Relationships may be tumultuous or as exhilarating as slipping down a water tube. On the other hand some prefer to keep a low key and avoid relationships while others languish without numerous relationships. Then there is the love relationship, so often awe inspiring and yet as powerful as a torpedo. The devastation from a ruined love match is, well, just devastating at the time. By the passing of time, the memory begins to smooth out  those sharp rigged emotions. Love can be simple yet complex. It can be a dismay, when love is not reflected back, and in those cases, let go. Honestly, how can you love one by ‘tying that one down’? True love is about permitting your loved to be happy and deriving joy in his/her free will. Then again, someone has to do the pursuing originally in a relationship! The best scenario is likely to be when there is a dual attraction and of course things should work out. Maybe we should all have the attitude of ‘if it is meant to be it will be’ but by all means make your intentions known! Your potential partner or even present partner can not guess your thoughts and feelings. Indeed most problematic arguments in any relationship stem from misunderstandings. What a waste of time we all spend on ‘crossed lines’, leading to so much unnecessary upset and inappropriate responses. Be direct! Obviously telling your partner, “that green top just doesn’t mix with your eyes” beats “your look so frumpy”. The first statement is more specific but a little cloudy on the impolite remark. While the second comment, is way too vague and a hurtful insult if your partner is in a particularly sensitive mood. Patience is pivotal in relationships; unfortunately patience is a quality not all can readily display! Impatience with your partner’s low libido may lead to other ideas, such as ginseng. This herb is often touted as an aphrodisiac. What is beyond a doubt, is its stimulating effects on our systems (such as the immune system). The thought of foods possessing aphrodisiac properties inspires a sense of power. The truth is that at this present time, there are not any reliable studies to prove that certain foods are aphrodisiacs. This begs the question; how come so and so really did or does feel an effect? The answer is not as simple, as foods are of complex constituents and each person is a subjective physical and mental eater.  Well the commonest food linked to romance is chocolate. We know that chocolate has chemical substances that affect our neurotransmitters (the brain’s chemical messengers between brain cells, called neurones). The chocolate promotes the release of the ‘feel good’ neurotransmitters, or it enhances, prolongs their activity. That is not all there is to chocolate. Chocolate is also high in glucose, which lifts the blood sugar levels. This leads to an immediate ‘feel good jump start’ for a short while. Be aware though, that what works for one will not necessarily work for another. Give a savoury chasing taster, something like chocolate, and obviously the effect is dampened as the sweetness may perhaps be a little too much.
What is one to do then, if one wishes to ‘spice things up’ so to speak romantically? For starters eradicate the fixed notion that a food is a definite aphrodisiac for everyone. You might be thinking of oysters, or you were! Surprise, oysters are extremely high valuable suppliers of zinc. This mineral is immensely important for numerous systems but one such system is the reproductive system. The link is obviously, that better reproductive function |
enhances the associations of oysters with romance.Then there is the placebo effect, when one believes a substance to have an effect (which it may not have) and as a result indeed feels that effect. So for some it may be ‘believing is seeing’ instead of ‘seeing is believing’. Any food that is nutritious could be viewed as enhancing romance. The improved well being from better circulation, reproductive function, mental relaxation and general overall health; support libido.